Love: Feeling, Choice or More?

This is thinking outside the box a bit. Do you believe that love is a feeling? Do you believe it to be a choice? Or do you believe that there is much more to it than that?

When you think of love, what comes to mind? A person? A place? Something special? Love is a word with many meanings, and many definitions. We often use the words in a different sense. We use the word “love” when we say we love a movie, and again when we say we love our family. Do they mean the same thing there? No, they really don’t. The dictionary defines love as a “strong positive emotion or affection towards someone or something.” Love is something that you can feel, but love is not solely a feeling. The true definition of love is God. God is love. In 1 John 4:12-16 it says that:

“If we love one another God abides in us and his love has been perfected in us. By this we know that we abide in Him and he in us because he has given us his spirit. And we have seen and testify that the Father has sent his only son as savior of the world. Whoever confesses that Jesus is the son of God, God abides in Him and he in God. And we have known and believed the love that God has for us. God is love, and he who abides in love abides in God and God in him.”

To know love, we must know God. The word abide means “to dwell,” so not only must we know God, but we must dwell in his presence and in him.

In 1 Corinthians 13 – Commonly known as the “love chapter” it shows love as a verb. It shows what love is and what love does (or rather what it does not). “Love is patient, Love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast. It is not proud, it is not rude, it is not self-seeking. It is not easily angered. It keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices in the truth. Love always protects, always trusts, always hopes, and always perseveres. Love never ends…”

So here we have that love is something you do. And just like anything that you do — love is a choice.

Love is forgiving when forgiveness is not deserved. Love is showing mercy when none should be obtained. Love is void of anger and jealousy. Love is pure, true, tried and undeserved. Love can change lives. Love saved us, made us, chose us and named us. Love is bold. Love changes everything. When you share love, you share Jesus. Ultimately – Jesus is love defined. He defined love when he came and sacrificed his own life so that we could live eternally.

Love means holding on and not giving up when the situation seems hopeless. But love is also letting go and releasing to God. Love is the cross. Love is sacrifice. We are made to love and made to receive love. Love sees the imperfections and sees beauty in them. Love is always the answer.

So it comes down to this. Is love really what you feel? Because sometimes love can be tough – Love in the sense that we often confuse it with. When we confuse love with a feeling, we can say love hurts and that love falls apart. If we say that love is a feeling, then love can’t be of God. Because then we can say that love hurts. We can say so much about love that isn’t the wonderful feeling that we once knew. That is because love is not a feeling or emotion. Love is an action, a choice. A choice to show love and to love. Love is something so big we can not fully wrap our minds around it. God is love.

And God is the true definition of Love. He chose to send His son to die for us to be the sacrifice for our sins. Jesus chose to die on that cross so that we could be redeemed. He chose to love. Jesus is love defined. It says in John it says that “For God so loved the world that he gave His only begotten son, that whoever believes in Him would not perish but have eternal life.” He chose to do that. Love is a choice, and an action. It is something that we do. But how you see it now — that’s up to you.


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