Get Lost: Your Guide to Finding True Love – Book Review


Get LostTitle: Get Lost: Your Guide to Finding True Love

Author: Dannah Gresh

Rating: 4/5 stars 

Release Date: April 2, 2013

Website: http://www.purefreedom.org

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You see him walking down the hall, (what do you mean who? Don’t ask me who. You know who I’m talking about!) and all the sudden your mind begins to move at a  whirlwind speed! Will this be the day that he finally notices you! How long has it been since you have wanted him to see you? How long have you waited to get his attention? And still, if you do get it, how far will you go to gain his affection? How much do you really need him?

Maybe it has been the same guy for months or years even. Or maybe it is a different guy every week. You can’t seem to help yourself with these feelings. It is a longing in your heart that you can’t describe – the need to be noticed and the need to be recognized and loved. It is as if you cannot be complete without him. And he doesn’t even realize everything he is to you.

You desire and you want…you push yourself further every time.

This is just an example of the violent craving that Dannah addresses in her book, Get Lost, to be released on April 2nd. Not only does she talk about the craving, but she also talks about the cure. Included in this book Dannah walks you through a 10 day “love feast” and finally the fulfillment. This is a book about God and guys and how we can sometimes get them mixed up.

“Discover how to get so lost in God that a guy has to seek Him to find you.” 

Love can be a complex word. We love our family, we love our friends, we love our food? The English language by far is lacking in the area of what love really is. Dannah goes though scripture and talks about the Hebrew and Greek words for love and what they mean. In example, Hesed is the Hebrew form of love to describe the God kind of love for us. In the Greek, this love is called agape. This love is unfailing, and is not rooted in emotionalism or circumstances – it is a love that is about the other and not oneself. This is the love that we really desire, and long for, and that is offered to us, but dear one will you respond? 

Get Lost with God as Dannah leads you through a 10-day love feast that will lead you to countless days in the love and presence of our Lord.

So what are you waiting for? It’s time to get lost!

Related Posts:

What Are You Waiting For? Review and Interview with Dannah Gresh

Lady-in-Wanting to a Lady-in-Waiting

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About the Author: Dannah Gresh is the best-selling author of more than fifteen books, including, And the Bride Wore White, Lies Young Women Believe (with Nancy Leigh DeMoss), and What Are You Waiting For? A popular speaker nationwide, Dannah has long been at the forefront of the movement to encourage tweens and teens to pursue purity. Dannah lives in State College, PA with her husband, Bob.

(I received this book for free from WaterBrook Multnomah Publishing Group  in exchange for my honest review as a part of their Blogging for Books program.)

Beauty that Lasts


Today I am excited to be sharing a guest post by a sweet friend of mine, Shannon Meiers!
Shannon is a home-schooled senior in highschool, and lover of God, family, music, french, and blue jeans. She is learning to depend on the Lord’s plans for her life, and not her own, and blogs about the daily journey at lifewithoutplans.blogspot.com
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Have you ever realized that the word ‘beautiful’ means different things to different people? To older women who are forever crooning over small children, beauty seems to mean the innocence and newness of youth, while little kids think beauty is flowers and puppies and rainbows.
As we age, though, society forces its warped view into our impressionable heads and we begin to think that beautiful means fake –made up — photoshopped. It’s not real. And it doesn’t last any longer than a coat of makeup or hairspray.
Contrast this to the unmistakable glow some girls have. Their faces seem to always be lit up, and their joy for the Lord makes them stand out. They are beautiful. But where do they find this kind of beauty? We’ve already determined that it can’t be found from the world. Let’s see what the Bible says.
“Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is–his good, pleasing and perfect will.” Romans 12:2
Transformed by the renewing of your mind.’ Changed inside and out by God’s presence in your life. Then you will find God’s will. Sounds good. But easier said than done, because the pattern of this world doesn’t take kindly to nonconformists.
Let’s check out Proverbs 31, verse 30. The NIV version says this:
“Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised.” (NIV)
Here’s the bottom line — Charm can be faked.
What you see isn’t always you get.  But let’s take it a step further. Beauty is fleeting. It doesn’t last.
Now, watch what happens when we add another translation of the same verse into the mix.
“Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised.” (ESV)
Beauty is vain. Prideful. But If we combine the two different translations, couldn’t we say that Beauty Is both vain, and in vain?
So how do we secure the kind of beauty that lasts? Well, take a look at what Proverbs 14:26 says: “He who fears the LORD has a secure fortress, and for his children it will be a refuge.”
Fear in this instance doesn’t mean ‘to be afraid of’, it means to have a respectful awe for. Likewise, ‘praise’ doesn’t always mean ‘to worship’.  Taken in context, it means to ’commend the worth of’. So if we put everything together and reword it a bit, here’s what we end up with:
“Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who has a respectful awe of the Lord, will have a secure fortress, and her community will commend her worth.” 
Now that’s beauty that lasts. The perfect kind to have while in your single season, because it is the kind that will attract the guy God has for you, the Prince Charming to your Cinderella.  Beauty that will never fade, or tarnish, because it is found in Christ, the Everlasting King.

Content, yet Hopeful… Guest Post by Meghan Gorecki


Today we have a most beautiful and inspiring guest post by Meghan Gorecki, who is a dear old friend of mine! !

Meghan is a young woman striving to live a simple life under the Lord’s unique direction, & daily learning that “to live is Christ, but to die is gain.” Her days are filled to overflowing with working full-time as a medical receptionist, her crazy-awesome family, & pursuing her “dream job” of becoming a published fiction author. Though her passion is fiction writing, she records the crazy days, love, tough lessons, & laughter that color her days on her blog, Just As I Am.

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Always being a hopeless/now-cynical romantic, news of engagements, weddings or “relationship statuses” changing always bring a sappy smile to my face. Hearing of unique, divinely-penned love stories always bring me goosebumps and I just shake my head in wonderment of God’s perfect plan for each and every one of us. *Laughs* And at the same time I can say with utmost honesty that I am quite content in my “single” status! This *doesn’t* mean I don’t look around on occasion and wonder where “my guy” is…but I digress.

As my friends and I are getting older, talks of crushes or “boys” have progressed to serious discussions about what we look for {and what we don’t want} in future husbands…while still other friends are hopeful about future relationships, or *in* serious relationships! One of my friends is expecting her thirdchild–her love story is a *very* special and unique one I am privileged to have witnessed. As much as my deepest heart’s desire is to get married and have as many children as God’s will’s…I am, frankly, blown away by the fact that I don’t “feel” like me & my friends are “old enough” to be actually going through or developing serious relationships that may just turn into marriage!

Time has flown by at an alarming rate…it feels like only yesterday a friend and I were perusing Before You Meet Prince Charming, denouncing “crushes” and romance novels…and nobly making “lists” of the “musts” for our future spouses. *Disclaimer: the book referenced is a great book, helpful, to a point. Just slightly went to the extreme…crushes, I have NO room to talk, only had one till I was 12…and I love a good cheesy historical book!* At that time, I was *so* swept up in all of that, it proved to be a slight stumbling block…in other reminisces, I remember vividly how I *SO* wanted to be married at eighteen and having a passel of children by my mid-twenties. Oh the daydreams of an overly romantic old-fashioned little girl…

I rejoice with those who rejoice in new-found, or progressing, relationships…yet it is ALL still so foreign to me half the time I don’t know what to think exactly. But I do know this–I can listen, rejoice with them, and pray for them in the new season. It’s a privilege at every step of the way…while it is *also* a privilege to pray for my utterly single friends’ future husbands, and pray with them in this season where God is preparing us, and “our guys” for our lives together.

I have a journal under a light layer of dust that has a few “letters” to my future husband recorded…I think about him, and where he is, what he’s doing, quite often. And on occasion I do ponder who he could be. I do have a “list” of qualities I hope my husband to have, but it is *not* extensive–compared to certain “lists” two of my friends and I compiled at a young age that boasted forty or more “requirements” for our guys. Don’t judge. Those days of day-dreaming childhood are gone, while the more serious business of asking the Lord to prepare and shape *me* are uppermost in my mind…but I do “dabble” on Pinterest with my dream wedding. smile Regardless of when, where or how gorgeous the wedding is…no matter how many times I may be a bridesmaid before a bride, I am thankful and content where I am now. Yet I am so hopeful for someday… beginning a new life with a beautiful wedding day, & carving out that new life with God at the center.

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How has this post encouraged you? Please feel free to share in the comments. Blessings!

~Brittany

Waiting Past Midnight


Growing up, when it came to thinking about when my Mr. Knightly would come, I never thought it would be a fairy tale. Although I did not expect Cinderella, I seem to have subconsciously given myself a deadline in which He should be here by. Now, at 20 years old I find myself to be waiting past midnight.

I am nowhere near where I dreamed I would be at this age. Growing up, had you asked me, I would have said I’d be married at 18 and I expected by age 20 to have started a family. But here I am still waiting and dreaming and longing – although I rarely have time for that. For the longest time I believed that life really began at “I do”.

I was wrong.

I came across this quote by Elisabeth Elliot one day that really turned my way of thinking:

“Single life may be only a stage of a life’s journey, but even a stage is a gift. God may replace it with another gift, but the receiver accepts His gifts with thanksgiving.”

My singleness is a gift.

Yes, you read that right. My singleness is a gift. As much as a may dream about married life or where I thought I would be now, I am confident that I am right where God wants me. I am enjoying this single season in my life. It is a gift in such a way that I am free to do, be and act accordingly to that which I feel God calling me to.

In this stage, I am called to walk with God and let Him be all He is to me so that I can be all He called me to be. In this stage of life’s journey, being single allows me to serve and go places that I may not be able to as the same capacity when I am in another stage of life and my responsibility is my husband and family.

So while I sometimes feel like I am waiting past midnight, I recognize the gift that I have in this season and the beauty and blessings that are part of walking in it. I’m no Cinderella, and my life is not a fairy tale, but in this chapter of my life can say a lot about how my story goes.

Next chapter!

Are you waiting past midnight? How is your singleness a gift?

“God Still Owns Tomorrow…”


“Single life may be only a stage of life’s journey, but even a stage is a gift…this gift for this day. The life of faith is lived one day at a time, and it has to be lived – not always looked forward to as though the “real” living were around the next corner. It is today for which we are responsible. God still owns tomorrow.” – Elisabeth Elliot (In the shadow of the Almighty)

I can’t even begin to count how many years that I believed that life would really begin when I walked down that aisle and my daddy gave me away. As I got older, God began to show me more and more the beauty and blessings of the single season. For many, it is but a stage of life’s journey…and just as Elisabeth Elliot says above – it is a gift. Today is the ‘”real” living’. We can dream all we want, but that doesn’t let us live tomorrow before it comes. I love how she says that God still owns tomorrow.

Today is all that we have. This moment is all we can claim. We never know when we could have taken our last breath. Life doesn’t start when marriage comes, life has long since begun, and if you don’t live in this moment then you are going to miss what God has for it.

This moment, this day, this season of life – this is a gift; and as much as you might have dreamed it to just be a time of waiting before “real” life started, you can now open your eyes to the blessing it is to have this stage in the journey. This is more than a time of waiting; this is more than a time of preparation; this is the time to live to the fullest.

So,

Love deeper.

Live with purpose.

Dream Big but remember today.

Always remember that God still owns tomorrow…how are you going to live your today?

 

Mr. Knightly to Me


Lately I have been dreaming so much of what could be. I’ve been dreaming of what it will be like when Mr. Knightly comes riding on in. Each day I wait, I find my love for him growing stronger. With every prayer that I pray for him, he feels all the more nearer. And with every letter I write to him, it seems like he is here…

I will tell you who Mr. Knightly (or prince charming/knight in shining armor) is to me. He is a man with a heart after God. He is a man of purpose and passion who loves, has compassion, and shares my dreams. He is one chosen by God to lead. And He is the one that I pray for every day that He will be sensitive to the leading of the Holy Spirit in His life and be strong in the Lord and also that God will keep him in every step that He takes. He is one that I pray is out there waiting for me.

Prince charming to me is fully devoted to the Lord and to the call that the Lord has placed on his life. He is committed to his family. He loves without limits. He is strong. He is compassionate. He has a sense of humor. My prince will not compromise. He will always stand firm. My prince will bring out the best in me. He will cover my weaknesses, and compliment my strengths. He will wait for me. My prince will hold my heart and cherish it for all of His days. That is prince charming to me.

I encourage you to not settle when it comes to this man that will enter your life. It is okay to dream. Do not have unrealistic expectations, and do not put God in a box, but dream of who Mr. Knightly is to you, and do not forget to pray about him. Pray about God’s calling on His life. Pray about who he will be and character traits that you want him to have. Pray about when He will come into your life. Pray that he will always remain pure and be strong in the Lord. Pray for his trials and for his relationships with family and friends. Pray for his heart.

One of my favorite songs is called “Wait For Me” by Rebecca St. James. The lyrics of this song portray so well what we should be doing in this single season as we wait for the next season to come in. Read the lyrics of this song which are copied below. They will be such a blessing to you

Verse 1:

Darling, did you know that I

I dream about you

Waiting for the look in your eyes

When we meet for the first time

And darling did you know that I

I pray about you

Praying that you will hold on

And keep your loving eyes only for me

Chorus:

‘Cause I am waiting for, praying for you darling

Wait for me too

Wait for me as I wait for you

‘Cause I am waiting for, praying for you darling

Wait for me too

Wait for me as I wait for you

Darling wait

Verse 2:

Darling, did you know

I dream about life together

Knowing it will be forever

I’ll be yours and you’ll be mine

And darling when I say

“’til death do us part”

I mean it will all of my heart

Now and always faithful to you

Chorus

Bridge:

Now I know you may have made mistakes

But there’s forgiveness, and a second chance

So wait for me, darling wait for me

Wait for me

Darling wait for me

After looking at these words, how are you waiting in this season? Are you praying for your future husband? Are you waiting faithfully? Are you willing to put your whole heart into waiting for this man that will one day come and make the season change?

Who is Mr. Knightly to you?

Love Letters


The Single Season is filled with so much joy and love and excitement. You might be wondering if we are talking about the same season here, but stick with me. I promise that we are! This season in life is what we make it to be. You can spend it giving your heart away to every guy that catches your eye, or you can choose to put your heart in God’s hands and let him hold your heart and take care of it for you until His perfect timing comes for Mr. Knightly to come and take it.

In this season of singleness, I find it to be filled with love letters. That is, love letters from God, love letters to God and love letters to your future husband.

Years ago I started keeping a journal with letters that I write to my future husband. Many of those letters are really prayers that I am praying for Him and such, but I keep quite a few recorded. I plan on giving this journal to my husband on my wedding day – the day that makes this season and all of this waiting so worth it! I think it will be so cool later to give this to my husband. In the end, I think all of those letters and prayers say, “Hey, I waited for you all of this time. I prayed for you. I loved you before I knew you, and I will love you and stand by you until death do us part.” These letters have such a meaning. I want to encourage you to take some time and not only pray for your future husband, but write to him. Save the letters and present them on your wedding day!

And just like I write to my future husband, I write love letters back to God. And when I say I write them “back”, I mean that He already sent me a love letter – His Word!

A few years back my youth pastor passed out these letters while we were at a retreat. In them contained a love letter from God – which is all scripture, and compiled by an unknown source. It went like this:

My child, You may not know me, but I know everything about you. (Psalm 139:1) I know when you sit down and when you rise up. (Psalm 139:2) I am familiar with all your ways. (Psalm 139:3) Even the very hairs on your head are numbered. (Matthew 10:29-31) For you were made in my image. (Genesis 1:27) In me you move and have your being. (Acts 17:28) For you are my offspring. (Acts 17:28) I knew you before you were conceived. (Jeremiah 1:4-5) I chose you when I planned creation. (Ephesians 1:11-12) You were not a mistake, for all your days are written in my book. (Psalm 139:15-16) I determined the exact time of your birth and where you would live. (Acts 17:26) You are fearfully and wonderfully made. (Psalm 139:14) I knit you together in your mother’s womb. (Psalm 139:13) And brought you forth on the day you were born. (Psalm 71:6) I have been misrepresented by those who do not know me. (John 8:41-44) I am not distant and angry, but am the complete expression of love. (1 John 4:16) And it is my desire to lavish my love on you. (1 John 3:1) Simply because you are my child and I am your Father. (1 John 3:1) I offer you more than your earthly father ever could. (Matthew 7:11)

For I am the perfect Father. (Matthew 5:48) Every good gift that you receive comes from my hand. (James 1:17) For I am your provider and I meet all your needs. (Matthew 6:31-33) My plan for your future has always been filled with hope. (Jeremiah 29:11) Because I love you with an everlasting love. (Jeremiah 31:3) My thoughts toward you are countless as the sand on the seashore. (Psalm 139:17-18) And I rejoice over you with singing. (Zephaniah 3:17) I will never stop doing good to you. (Jeremiah 32:40) For you are my treasured possession. (Exodus 19:5) I desire to establish you with all my heart and all my soul. (Jeremiah 32:41) And I want to show you great and marvelous things. (Jeremiah 33:3) If you seek me with all your heart you will find me. (Deuteronomy 4:29) Delight in me and I will give you the desires of your heart.(Psalm 37:4) For it is I who gave you those desires. (Philippians 2:13) I am able to do more for you than you could possibly imagine. (Ephesians 3:20) For I am your greatest encourager, (2 Thessalonians 2:16-17) I am also the Father who comforts you in all your troubles. (2 Corinthians 1:3-4) When you are brokenhearted, I am close to you. (Psalm 34:18) As a shepherd carries a lamb, I have carried you close to my heart. (Isaiah 40:11) One day I will wipe away every tear from your eyes. (Revelation 21:3-4) And I’ll take away all the pain you have suffered on this earth. (Revelation 21:3-4) I am your Father, and I love you even as I love my son, Jesus. (John 17:23) For in Jesus, my love for you is revealed. (John 17:26) He is the exact representation of my being. (Hebrews 1:3) He came to demonstrate that I am for you, not against you. (Romans 8:31) And I tell you that I am not counting your sins. Jesus died so that you and I could be reconciled. (2 Corinthians 5:18-19) His death was the ultimate expression of my love for you. (1 John 4:10) I gave up everything I loved that I might gain your love. (Romans 8:31-32) If you receive the give of my son Jesus, you receive me. (1 John 2:23) And nothing will ever separate you from my love again. (Romans 8:38-39) Come home and I’ll throw the biggest party heaven has ever seen. (Luke 15:17) I have always been Father, and will always be Father. (Ephesians 3:14-15) Me question is…Will you be my child? (John 1:12-13) I am waiting for you. (Luke 15:11-32)

Love,

Your Dad – Almighty God.

            That letter was so amazing to me the first time I read it, and even now, reading it again I am so in awe of how much God loves me – and in awe of how much He loves us! Every bit of that letter is scripture! This is proof of how the Word is God’s love letter to us.

This season, I encourage you to fall in love with your Savior, and also to never forget what He has done for you. And when you remember what He has done for you – I pray that you see beyond the words and into the heart of the matter. I pray that you see this love that is so great and that you too will in in awe of Him and how great His love is for us.

I want to encourage you to take some time reading God’s love letter to you. And once you have let it sink into your heart, write back to God. He is the lover of your soul! He loves you so much that He gave of himself — for you. He would have done it, even if it were only for you. His love is that much. His love is that deep. Thank him for His love! Tell Him why you love him! Write to him.

Additionally, I want to encourage you to write to your future husband and also, pray for Him. Even keep a journal if you’d like for multiple letters, and on your wedding day, you can present Him with the gift of not only your heart – but the heart that longed so much for Him over the season, that you preserved just for Him. You are giving Him proof of your faithfulness. You are giving Him a promise.

May the Lord bless you and may you find joy in His love letters to you and also in responding!

Blessings,

Brittany L. Ketter (1 Peter 3:4)

P.S. A great book to read on this amazing love is “His Revolutionary Love: Jesus’ Radical Pursuit of You.”  Really it is an awesome book and you should read it! ❤

A Summer With Mr. Knightly


Summer is finally here! So many look forward to summer and all for different reasons, but I’ve seen one common reason among many of them, and that being – there is just something magical about summer that allows us to dream above and beyond and where we really believe that dreams will come true. In other words, summer comes and many of us are sitting and waiting for Mr. Knightly to come and sweep us off our feet and then the long dreamed-of summer will become all the more magical!

It is time that I let you in on a little secret about the Single Season. Are you ready? Here it is: The Single Season does not mean that you do not dream or wish for that guy to come, or not think about what it will be like when he does. Face it girls, we all do it. We all think about who he will be, when he will come, how we will know, how he will know, where will we be and how long until then? Often those are the thoughts that run through our heads at some point or another, and over and over again. This was ordained at the beginning. We yearn for that companionship. Who is he in your dreams?

I do my fair share of dreaming and I love the thrill of summer, but there is so much more to it than Mr. Knightly coming and sweeping us off our feet and riding away with us on His mighty horse! (Or some of you might prefer a candy red BMW or Ferrari.)

It is a strange feeling to miss someone that you may have possibly never met. But it is a feeling I often find in myself. Summer is here, and I do not know what you may think, but to me, summer is a season of life and love. Every year I tell myself, “This is going to be the best summer ever!” And why is that? Will it be the summer that love finds me? Will it be the summer that I can stop waiting? Maybe it could be, but not so far. No, every year I tell myself that because I choose to make it that way. With school out and plenty of extra time on my hands, I like to take advantage of those long hot summer days and lay in the Son. (No, that is not a typo there. I am not talking about the physical sun as much as I like to soak that in.) I am talking about God’s Son. Summer gives me all this time to get into His presence. I realize that many times summer can be even more busy or crazy than the school year, but who makes it that way? I’m not telling you to not go swimming or not hang out with your friends and family. I am not telling you to not have fun and take in the excitement of summer. What I am saying is take this season to return to your first love.

The summer after I turned 16 was one of the most memorable summers of my life? And why? Because I chose to make it that way. I remember being with my best friend constantly! It didn’t matter what was going on that week, we always made time to get together. There was even a 2 week stretch where we saw each other every day and did multiple sleep overs. We got to know each other in ways that we never knew each other before with that time we had that summer. And she remains my best friend to this day.

Just as we almost always are able to “make time” for our friends, we should be able to have time for God. He should be your first and foremost priority every single day. Ultimately our goal as we journey to be godly ladies-in-waiting should be to first and foremost be to know God intimately. I can promise that He is the only one that you can ever fall in love with without risking your heart. He crafted you, and He will hold your heart in His hands for as long as you let Him. I urge you to let Him be the keeper of your heart until comes the time for your Mr. Knightly to come and win your heart over.

May your summer be filled with blessings and your heart be ever so captivated by Jesus in this season of singleness. And as your journey through, I pray that you find the love of Jesus to be so much more than you ever thought it could be before. He is love.

~Brittany Lee Ketter

For All of you Single Girls Out There…


I admit, lately I’ve been thinking about that special guy that God has for me, and honestly – I miss him. Be honest girls, how many of you are home on a Friday night doing nothing while all of your friends are out on a date with their boyfriends? Or maybe your best friend has been hanging out with a guy and you feel neglected – feeling the pain? We all know the feeling.
I’ve set my standards, and I’ve set them high. I know what I want in a guy. I haven’t dated. I’ve made up my mind before that I would not date until:

1. Senior Year (at earliest)
2. I knew the guy who fit my list.

Well, here I am at senior year – boyfriend? No. And that’s cool. I’ve found my season of singleness to be my time for growing and my time for going deeper in my relationship with God. I wouldn’t trade this season for anything God is so good!
However, recently, I find myself thinking more and more about “him.” Who is he? When will God bring him in? How? Will I know right away? I have all of these questions, and yet no answers to be found. The only thing I know is that, 1) God has this all in His hands, and 2) I desire this companionship greatly.

I want someone to love, and to love me, but more-so, I want that person to be who God has for me. You won’t see me rushing in on the dating scene. In fact, I’m a bit more into courtship. And, I find that I really am impressed by the guys who first asked the father’s permission to take out his daughter, before they even ask the girl. It shows maturity and respect.

I can picture my own daughter someday, and I can tell you I would not be thrilled or very pleased at all if some guy just came to our door and picked her up to take her out, without first coming to me or my husband. No. I don’t believe I’d be please, and I don’t believe my daughter would be going out with him that night… (and possibly any night. We’ll see.)

I believe there is a special bond between Dad’s and daughters. I look up to my dad, and I admire him greatly. He’s always been my hero. I rarely find something I enjoy more than a night with my dad. I love being with him. Just me and him – even just driving to the store, or watching the game – I can never get enough of the one-on-one daddy-daughter time. The more I’m with him, the more I see in him that I would want in a husband someday. Some of these big things in my dad are commitment, strength and purpose. His commitment to this family is so apparent. Fathering 5 kids, (3 of them being teenagers, YIKES!) he works hard and long hours every day to support his family. And afterwards, you will find him working on things that need done around the house. He doesn’t work for the fun of it. He doesn’t work just for the money. He doesn’t work to give himself a good name. But he does it for us – to support his family. He does it to the best of his ability, and I admire that quality in my dad – his commitment. Strength and purpose fit into that also. My dad is a family man – strength I see is how he handles his household. He is firm and loving and always makes a point when things aren’t running the way they should be. He heads our household well. His purpose – I see in his stance. Whether he’s in his suit going to work, or in his old worn jeans and t-shirt working outside or fixing cars or doing yard work. My dad is a man of purpose, and his purpose is that of one he knows full well of – the position God has placed him in as the head of this family.

I didn’t just dream this entire up. I had to be taught to see it. But I cannot recall a time ever where my dad wasn’t there for me. Dads are special. And I believe that the Father-daughter relationship is too. There is just a bond there, seemingly from the beginning – my dad’s the reason I’ve gone through most of my teen years without “needing” a guy. I didn’t “need” a boyfriend like some of my friends and many teens my age did. I’d much rather have a day with my dad. As I’ve grown older though, that’s not changed, but I’m starting more to want to find the one that God has for me. I love the relationship I have with my dad, and I don’t ever want it to change – he fills a place in my heart where only a guy could, where only he could. But he’s taught me what I want. I want a man like him.

In a way, I see my mother has taught me that too. She’s taught me to look deeply, see the invisible, and feel the gentlest touches. She taught me to see the world, and she obviously taught me to find a good man (Daddy is exhibit A! ) My mom has also taught me what kind of woman I want to be. She’s raised me right. (Or I think my parents have done a pretty good job, anyway. I mean between the two of them – I turned out pretty awesome, if I do say so myself! – Quite humble too! :P) My mom showed me the kind of woman I want to be. I want to be like she is – a woman of strength and virtue, whose priorities are in line; A woman who watches over her house, and brings up her children in the Lord; A woman who is wise and carries herself with dignity; A woman who is led by the Lord, and who teaches her children to rely on Him.

My mother taught me to work, cook, clean, read, write and all the typical stuff, but by example, she’s taught me the qualities of a godly woman, wife and mother, and I’m proud to be her daughter.

Now girls, stick with me. I’m not as off topic as you might think – remember that longing feeling I was talking about before? The want I have for that companionship and love? My journey with God these last few months- he’s brought me to a place of wholeness – but even so, I still don’t’ feel complete. It’s like I’m missing something – I’m missing him. There is such a mystery about that – only the Lord knows. I was talking with a friend about that, and she mentioned to me how in Genesis, “Adam – even after all the animals, no suitable companion was found. Then God created Eve.” She told me we were born this way – with a longing to have that companion. I chewed on this for a moment, and then it struck me!

Eve was made from a rib of Adam. (Genesis 2:22) There is not something missing in me – I AM the missing piece!

“For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh.” Genesis 2:24 NIV

Girls – we are the missing piece. When God made Eve – He made her from a piece of Adam. They were one. The same will before us. God has that special guy out there for you, and someday you will be one. I’m waiting on God, and in the end, I know I’ll be amazingly happy with this choice-because if we’re the missing piece to these guys, girls we don’t want to break ourselves out in the dating scene. Dating just to date, or having a boyfriend just to have a boyfriend or to try to fill that space inside of you or to take away the loneliness you feel for love. Wait on God, because he knows that guy who is missing you. He created them just for you. You’re His missing piece. Preserve yourselves girls. I know it’s hard, especially at this age to be waiting and not going out or getting into these kind of relationships, but you will be so happy later and see how it was so worth the wait.

When I’ve been praying about this wanting in me, I just keep hearing God telling me, “wait.”

Girls, the time will come. The wait will be worth it – but for now, embrace this season of singleness. Let God be your heart’s desire. Get into His word, grow in Him. Listen for His voice and let Him teach you.
Also, your relationship with your parents is important. (God id after all entrust you into their care to raise you up in him) God doesn’t make mistakes. Bloom where you’re planted. You need God’s light to grow, you need times of rain. Sometimes He’ll shade you with his wing. You are where you are for a reason. Make the most of it. Be who you are. Give everything your all. Follow God, learn from your parents, and keep yourself pure. Waiting will be worth it. I guarantee you it will be.

Thinking now, I can’t wait for whoever God has for me to come into the picture, but I will wait patiently, pursue God, and continue to learn. If I’m this guy’s missing piece, I want to be whole myself, and that means surrendering everything in me – even this desire to God. I’ve learned surrendering is a process – not a moment. It’s a daily choice – a daily act.

So, for all of you single girls out there, thanks for reading, and I hope you got something from this. You’re the missing piece. I’m sure you’re going to want the rest of the puzzle to be put together when he comes along, so I encourage you to keep yourself together. Embrace your singleness as an opportunity to work on your relationship with God. Let Him be your everything. Give Him your heart. I know He won’t give it to someone who will break it. He knows who He has for you, trust Him Give your all to Him. You’re the missing piece – but He knows to which puzzle. Just wait until you see the whole picture. That guy that you have your eye on, (come on girls, you can’t say “what guy” you know we all have them,) give him to God. I’ve found the more you focus on God, the more you see from His view.

Giving that up is hard I know. Just keep praying. I pray for my future husband every day. I pray that God will keep him pure and that he will be strong in the Lord and that he’ll be safe where he is. I pray that anything that he may be going through, that God would meet him where he’s at and be there with him. I’ve found in praying for other people, it brings you closer together. In praying for my future husband, even though I may not know him, I believe that God will work something in that.
And you know when a guy comes along, pray about him, and trust your parents’ judgment. Talk to them about it. Don’t toss your other relationships aside just because a new season is in view. You ultimately want God to be your # 1 Priority. As for your parents, they are important too –having a good relationship with them will be of help for you. They’ve been through this before – it’s not so different now as you think. Take some wisdom from them. They know what they are talking about them. If you’re open to receive, you’ll be surprised what you can learn.

So girls, pray and seek God. Work on your relationships with your parents. God put them over you for a reason – learn from them. Keep waiting – God knows exactly what He’s doing. Take this time to grow in Him, and to hang out with your friends. Enjoy this season of life as you wait for the next to come. Something worth it, is something worth waiting for, right? You’re the missing piece to the puzzle. God knows the puzzle, give him all the pieces so He can make it complete.
Love you all so much! Thanks for reading.

Brittany L. Ketter ( 1 peter 3:4)

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